I have recently published my first erotic novel. I read erotica always have. I enjoy it and am not afraid for people to know this about me...accept... Well truth be told when it came out I never told my parents or any other older close relative. Why? When I write I don't necessarily only write about my own fantasies, but they are in there, so do I want my mom and dad reading these things ah no. I certainly don't want to know that they have.
My mother checked out my book Russian Pawn. She called it dirty. I told her well don't read it. No actually please please don't read it. My great Aunt wanted to download my books. I had to ask her daughter to convince her that Blood and Loss was an awesome read, but my other book was not for her.
Does this make me repressed, ashamed of who I am or a hypocrite? No I don't think so. I believe a woman has a right to enjoy erotica, porn, etc in whatever way they choose as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else. Woman (and men but lets face it in my experience men can have sex with the house on fire as long as he knows he has another 5 minutes before the roof caves in) especially those of us with kids and jobs be they stay at home or any other kind have a burden of worries, to-dos, responsibilities etc that weigh us down and sometimes sex is the last thing on the list. Reading can be a way to take our minds off it and maybe slip into someone else shoes for a while.
So if those shoes happen to be five inch stilettos and the story line happens to be -insert sexual fantasy here- then when she lays down her book she will likely be in the mood to lay down with her man. If she doesn't have one, maybe she can at least please herself and get in a little stress relief.
Clearly 50 shades of grey hit a nerve. There are so many good erotica books out there. The range is endless. It doesn't have to be of the soccer mom variety a la 50SOG either. It can be hard core BDSM, whether she wants be be the S or the M. It can be a romance with the guy from the other side of the tracks. It can be as in my book a woman who is strong, kick-ass adrenaline junkie who enjoys sex in all flavours, but vanilla and uses that to her advantage. The important thing is that when you read it you feel turned on.
Then buy a bunch of them. In whatever form you prefer. Read them in the tub, at bedtime etc then when you feel that tingle down below call your man in the room and tell him how to satisfy it, or don't maybe you want to do it yourself either way you will be in a much better frame of mind. Oh and don't worry about the kids, that's why they have bedtimes and locks on the bathroom door.
So ladies (and gentlemen) go buy my book or whatever other smut that helps you reach the finish line sit back and enjoy.
My mom has always read smut of varying kinds, and was recently asking me about whether I had read 50 Shades (I have not) because she had finished the series. So I know she's into erotica and it takes a lot for her to call something"dirty." That said, I'd prefer she didn't read my posts at BTCD or, if she does, that she doesn't know it's me who wrote them. In my case it's not even about fantasy, it's about reality. I write what I KNOW (or at least that's been my focus so far) and to read my posts is to get a very explicit peek into my personal sex life. That's the mortifying part that I'd prefer to keep separate from my family.
ReplyDeleteDon't think it matters what you write--just that you do! I wrote a short story which was referred to on Fanstory as "Purple Prose". Was fun to write!
ReplyDeleteI think a writer should write what he or she enjoys writing about!
I agree you should write what you enjoy. It would be very hard to write and not enjoy it I think. shudders...flashback of papers written in university.
ReplyDeleteMy mother and she would die if she read this, is a bit repressed. I think she gets worse as time goes on. She isn't a reader either. It is my dad who fostered my love of reading and I really don't want to know he read Russian Pawn. I write erotica and paranormal fantasy because I like to read those. I love almost all genres though. If it is well written then it can be enjoyed in my opinion.